ADHD memes don't have the same quality of info as my psych degree, but I swear the picture didn't hang together nearly as well until I saw enough of them.
That's why the 3 neurotypical psychiatrists I talked with sounded like "but did you consider depression/anxiety?" on loop, but when I found the one psychiatrist in my area that also has adhd we clicked immediately and I finally felt listened to
I can't count the number of times I start talking about executive dysfunction and someone immediately chirps in with "make a list, chunk it down, say you're going to do this for 20 minutes and then take a break." I eventually started asking in response, "Do you suggest to your depression patients simply not being sad? Do you tell your anxiety patients not to worry about stuff? Because that's what I'm hearing, and it tells me you don't understand the situation."