This is proof to me that the federated model has failed. I was so hopeful early on in the fediverse, I thought it was all we needed. I no longer feel that way. It's not a network of users, its a network of power tripping fiefdoms.
Client relay network topology is the future of social networking. Check out Nostr (and ignore all the bitcoiners, see the network for what it is).
The problem you're having is that you're addicted to being a consumer. The fediverse doesn't hand consumers a golden key to have everything they want for free at no effort. It hands creators and organizers the tools to do what they want.
You were never the target audience for federation if you can't be bothered to set up your own instance.
[Beware that you're likely responding to a crypto shill.]
The Fediverse is not the problem, the "All" feed is the problem... and large non-thematic instances shoving boosts from anyone that at least one of their users follows, straight to "All", is a problem.
Another problem, is setting up your own instance and being legally responsible for distributing what some users, that your users decide to follow, decide to boost.