Incel = involuntary celibate. A person (usually a male) who acts in a way and believes in things which potential romantic partners (usually females) find repulsive. For example, alt-righties, tankies, wannabe rapists, etc.
Incel comes with a certain ideology. They normally believe they are some kind of sub-human, held in that position by women, beta males (men with female partners) and chads (very attractive men with female partners).
They put a huge emphasis on being sexless, kissless, handholdless, etc. and believe all their problems and behaviour issues stem from this problem. That women won't be their romantic and sex partners.
From there they enter a spectrum of hatred for women. The majority of incels is probably just writing really really awful stuff about women online. But many boast how they "get back" at women in their day-to-day life. Spitting on their food as a waiter, ignoring their female classmates and talk over them in class are two examples I found online.
Some have plans on how to murder women and some already did.
OK thx for the clarification.
Yeah with this definition I completely agree with the original comment. Lot of people are toxic against women especially in competitive fps
You added your view of the issue to the definition. In-cel only means involuntary celibate, and there can be many more reasons why someone is, than appearing repulsive to potential romantic partners.
The porn on Lemmy is mostly weird furry stuff and still images of nude women. Most women don't regularly look at the kind of porn that is prevalent on Lemmy.