Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn't work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it's annoying that I never get anything done.
That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.
I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that's generally one of the first things that get recommended.