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The hardest thing to change for 4channers is losing the right wing, authoritarian, hierarchy stuff. Just treat others like asexual, innocent, nice people and they will treat you the same. The problem with 4 chan and most online forums is that the hormone levels behind the keyboard are through the roof and they just want sex. They don't care about actually fixing or changing themselves - they want to do the minimum required to get laid.
I get it. I was young once, and my lizard brain did all the driving. I didn't pull my head out of my ass until 27, and the pop could be heard around the globe. That actually coincides with the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27. Life before then seems so unbelievably cringeworthy.
The thing, though is that men in general do not bond or mentor each other, generally, or at the very least, we don't surround ourselves with people who we can learn from, because funni.
Men need to work on helping each other grow. Memes are great. Booze is fun. However, there should be something deeper than context based friendships, and that all starts with being comfortable talking and being somewhat vulnerable with each other, and honest with ourselves about what we are feeling internally.
I would argue that “men don’t bond” if they were raised on the alpha male bullshit you escaped from on the internet. I met my best friend in high school, we went to college together, and then he moved across the country over 10 years ago. We’re both in our early thirties now. But we chat still nearly every weekend, talk about life, boost each other’s spirits, chat politics, hopes, dreams, regrets, give each other advice based on our individual experiences. We never were part of the “kick each other in the balls = friendship” crowd, and while it’s certainly there, I think that saying generally men all feel that way is a bit disingenuous
the last cognitive development stage, which happens around 26-27.
Wait, what? I don't think I got the memo on that one. This isn't some "manosphere" thing, is it?
Nah, that's a real thing. Usually your finishes its final maturing phase around 25-30. Ofcourse your brain is still developing (and deteriorating) for the rest of your life, but at that point it's much slower.
Hey so what is this cognitive development that I may have missed out on? I tried googling but nothing comes up. Can you point me to some reading about this? Or some term to search for? Thanks.
Here’s some review of recent research on the topic: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6970937/
It is a period of brain maturation, learning about intimacy and mutual support, intensification of pre-existing friendships, family-oriented socialization, and the attainment of those social skills that are needed for mating and reproduction.
Awesome, thanks!
Trust me when I say I would be the last person to spout shit like that
Sorry fam I didn't mean it that way, I've just learned to be suspicious.
All good G
Hence "guys that are more out of shape than me."
The problem with 4 chan and most online forums is that the hormone levels behind the keyboard are through the roof and they just want sex. They don't care about actually fixing or changing themselves - they want to do the minimum required to get laid.
Sometimes hormone level go so high, that 4channers shart to develop academia-level projects and (presumably) inspire MIT researchers. I talk specifically about PPP from /mlp/, but there is also /chag/.
Just treat others like asexual, innocent, nice people
Okay, but what about REAL people? Not everyone can, or even wants to, live in a fantasy land like you do where bad actors can run roughshod over everybody as long as they put on an asexual, innocent, nice face.
😂 political beliefs have nothing to do with this. If you're a creep and have the personality of a roll of duct tape you probably won't attract anybody. Political affiliation or religion has zero to do with any of it. These people are just mental midgets.
How many dudes who have paid Andrew Tate money will vote for Kamala you think?
What? Andrew Tate? I just had to look him up. 😂 That's who you're worried about?